How long should a best man speech be?

A best man speech should typically be 3-5 minutes long, which translates to roughly 400-700 words. Shorter speeches (2-3 minutes) work well for intimate weddings, while longer speeches (5-7 minutes) allow for more stories. Guests appreciate heartfelt speeches that do not drag. Leave them wanting more, not checking their watches.

What should I say in a best man speech?

A great best man speech typically includes: an introduction (who you are and how you know the groom), one or two memorable stories about the groom, how the groom changed when he met the bride, genuine compliments about the couple, and a heartfelt toast. Start with something engaging to capture attention, include humor if it's natural to your relationship, and end on a sincere, emotional note that celebrates the couple's love.

How do I start a best man speech?

The best openings grab attention without being gimmicky. You could start with a brief introduction ('For those who don't know me, I'm [name], the groom's [relationship]'), a light joke about being honored (or terrified) to give this speech, or jump straight into an engaging story. Avoid starting with 'Webster's dictionary defines marriage as...' or reading the definition of best man. Be authentic and confident from the first word.

What should I NOT say in a best man speech?

Avoid: stories about ex-girlfriends or past relationships, anything that happened 'in Vegas,' inappropriate or explicit content, inside jokes that exclude most guests, excessive drinking stories, anything that could embarrass the groom in front of family (especially in-laws), negative comments about marriage, and anything the bride or groom asked you not to mention. When in doubt, leave it out. Celebrate, do not roast.

Can I use notes during my speech?

Absolutely! Most best men use notes, and guests won't judge you for it. You can use index cards, a printed sheet, or your phone (though phone can look less formal). Having notes is much better than forgetting your speech or rambling. Practice enough that you only need to glance at your notes occasionally, maintaining eye contact with the audience. Consider using bullet points rather than reading word-for-word, which sounds more natural.

How do I end a best man speech?

End with a sincere toast that celebrates the couple. Transition from your speech with something like 'So please raise your glasses...' then deliver a meaningful wish for their future. Keep it simple and genuine: 'To love, laughter, and happily ever after. To [Bride] and [Groom]!' Make sure you actually have a drink in hand, raise it, and wait for guests to join you before drinking. The toast is your mic-drop moment.

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